101 Ways to Make Someone Feel Unimportant on Their Birthday
Sorry for the negativity on this happy day of my own personal birth, but I have something to say XD
So I wanted one of those delicious ice cream cakes from Publix for my birthday because I never get to have them and it just seems more special than a regular cake. My mom was all set on buying one for me and everything, until she saw the price. She came home and was like, “So I don’t know if we should really have an ice cream cake, wouldn’t you rather have me make you a cake?” And I was like, “….ok. But why?” “Well it’s just sooo expensive I just think it would be easier and cheaper for me to just make a cake. I think we have a box of lemon left in the back cupboard I’ll go make it.” Now I’m not being materialistic or anything, but I mean c’mon. My mom makes money come first in every situation.
Can’t she just let it slide once in a while? It’s not like we are living in a shack and about to lose our house! We have a comfortable amount of money. You only have one life to live, and she’s spending hers worrying about money every second of the day, unnecessarily. WE DON’T LIVE ON RATIONS DURING WORLD WAR 2.
When I have kids, I’m not putting money before them. Because in the end, it just doesn’t matter.
Now you probably think that I am being whiney and materialistic and snooty but this is just one instance that is proving everything that I’ve learned about my mother. It’s a bigger deal then it seems.She has always put money first. Always.
I am tired of being the one who has to mooch off of friends for lunch money. I am tired of being the one on the field trip who doesn’t have enough to get a souvenier. I am tired of being the one who has to share a meal with her mother every single time we go out to a restaurant while everyone else gets whatever they want. Cheap is my mother’s middle name. Who knew it came at such a high price.
My dad gave me a 150 dollar check for christmas, even though he has basically nothing in his bank account and can’t pay the bills and may lose his house and truck. He gave me a 50 dollar check for my birthday even though he has basically no income at the moment and is finding it hard to pay for his heart pills. That is love my dear friend. I probably shouldn’t be defining love by how much someone spends on me, but I mean. Wouldn’t you feel shitty if your parent always seemed to think that the cost of something was more important? It’s just pointless and a waste of life to constantly be judging things by how expensive it is. I know that she got it from her parents but I mean, her parents had 6 children. They had a reason to be obnxiously money-savvy. My mom has 2 children, one of them she doesn’t have to pay much for besides health insurance.
She doesn’t travel anywhere besides the lake because it’s too expensive. It’s good to be money-conscious, but when it infringes upon your life and your experiences, that’s when it’s a problem. It won’t matter how much money you saved in your life when you die, what matters are the experiences you had. So why not indulge once in a while and spend money on something that is ridiculously over priced? I’m not saying everyday, I’m just saying once in a while. Can’t she just put money aside for one day?
3 years ago